Idle in the stand too high

The engine speed is almost 3000 rpm, if the engine is warm. Otherwise the speed is too high, but at 1200-1500 and thus much more “quiet”, i.e. bearable. Now I have renewed all the controllers in question, etc., but it does not matter. The error picture is strange. When I drive and take the gear out, the idle speed swings around 1800, only when the vehicle is standing or almost standing, the speed goes up. is really embarrassing to stand at the traffic lights or roll into a parking lot and the engine spins like Oskar…… so please help, there is no side air / leaks, hoses and clamps almost all exchanged.