Hand wash and grow

Have a good day to all car lovers, have a few questions since our new piece of jewellery has grown to my heart and I do not want to make any mistakes in the care. Since the first wash in the wash road had taken place these zwirbels pulled in there. Of course you can only see it on the black high gloss painted surfaces (roof, door rails middle). One could e.g. after a hand wash and drying at the doors afterwards with polish over( have another from abacus hi The other one is waxed after washing and drying with sonax brilliant wax1 (would you recommend it?). After that I didn’t see many small fluffs but they seem to hang under wax how would you handle it? Now the last one comes with the hand wash. I wanted to buy the dodo juice born to be mild then I still have a sonax 2 in1 multischwamm here. As a dry cloth I have to the orange baby of li quid Elements thought the things were good?Oh yes the rest of the paint is gray metallic. Thank you very much. Have some more questions but you know how that is you could wash every day everywhere you see dreck haha we have only been the car for 1 month therefore I want of course an optimal protection and care.