V60 D3/D4 2011 various questions, ambiguities, …

Hello your Volvo pros, the car is now 4 months in my possession, and still many questions have piled up. 1) 5W30 or 0W40? A5/B5? C3? 2) Of all the gears the 2nd is the hardest. Especially when everything is still cold. I have filled in a TUNAP manual transmission accessory. The circuit is now generally lighter, smoother, crisper, but the problem with the 2nd is still there. Whether from 1 to 2 or from 3 to 2. After a certain Z If everything is warm, it is almost gone or gets better. Does a gear oil change help? If yes, … 3) which gear oil use. Viscosity and manufacturer recommendations? 4) What color code does the silver rear diffuser (R design) have? I have a color pattern of 426 Mystic silver, which does not fit. Much too bright. 5) Which color code do the silver mirror caps or the window strips have? The 426 silver doesn’t fit here either. 6) What name / abbreviation does the platform of my m V60? 7) Average consumption 6,9L in normal driving mode. Normal? 8) I came across a topic here in the forum by chance, where there was discussion about cracks in the cylinder head of the 5 cylinders. Engine code of mine: D5204T2. Do I have to worry? Are now almost 105,000 on the clock. 9) Last question about the parking behavior: Once he dies immediately when I press the button, and another time he runs after me when I press. Or how can I explain it. Once is If he’s out right now, it’ll take a short moment for him to finish. Is that normal? Thank you in advance for your help!